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With just one click, the new scooter is delivered to your door. Online shopping can tempt children to buy more than planned. Here’s how to help your child order safely online and avoid getting into debt.
Whether football boots, personalized socks or face masks, online shopping is part of everyday life these days, and is a matter of course for children. Shopping on a laptop or mobile phone often starts as early as lower or middle school. It’s therefore important for parents to think about it. When children pay at a physical store, they develop a sense of the cost and might think twice about their purchase. This feeling is lost when paying online, which increases the risk they will spend more than they can afford or even get into debt.
As parents, you may prefer to prohibit your children from making online purchases altogether. However, explaining and supervising often have a more lasting effect in protecting children from wasting money than simply prohibiting online purchases.
As soon as your child gets their first smartphone or comes into contact with social media, learning about online shopping becomes important.
Shopping online has many advantages. It’s easier to compare prices, there is significantly more choice than at a store, and everything is available 24/7 from the comfort of your sofa.
Paying is also convenient. With TWINT, on account or by credit card, you can pay with just a few clicks, sometimes even if you don’t have the money in your account. But convenience can also tempt you to buy more than you really need, not least because advertising and social media influencers create pressure to buy, especially among teenagers.
This is compounded by other risks, from hidden costs such as shipping or customs duties to fake shops that never deliver the items paid for, and inadequate age checks.
Under 18-year-olds are generally not allowed to enter into major contracts without the consent of their parents or guardians. However, teenagers capable of sound judgment are allowed to shop independently online with their own wages or pocket money. In Switzerland, there is also no general right of withdrawal for online purchases. Many retailers voluntarily offer a return policy or a money-back guarantee. The terms and deadlines are stated in the general terms and conditions.
Tip: In the “Media Competence” brochure
from the platform “Youth and Media” (in German), you will find information on what parents should pay attention to when their children shop online and how to support them in a meaningful way.
Parents should support their children step by step. Responsibility should be transferred gradually so they are not overwhelmed. Discuss, for example, how to order something and how to pay a bill.
The following five tips show how you can improve your child’s digital skills when shopping online:
Children learn best when they are allowed to watch and give their own input. Consciously involve your child when you order something online yourself. Say your thoughts out loud, for example:
If you share your thoughts with your child during the ordering process, they will get a sense of how to make responsible decisions when shopping online. This will help them learn to think critically before ordering something on the internet.
Check your child’s account balance or the amount in your child’s piggy bank together before placing the order. Ask your child if they have enough money to pay for the items. If they already have their own account, you can do this step in E-Banking.
Make your child’s first online purchase together. Use the opportunity to compare prices, delivery times and return policies among different providers together. Before completing the order, you should also look at the total costs in detail, including shipping and customs duties. Explain what the terms and conditions are, why you need to accept them and in which fields you can leave the checkbox unchecked.
Children should also learn how returns work. Involve your child when you order an item of clothing in the wrong size and need to return it. Show them how to prepare a return and drop it off at the post office. Explain that constantly ordering packages, only to have to return them, is not very sensible.
Responsible shopping also means regularly checking what you have spent your money on. Review the account statements with your child and discuss whether their purchases still seem reasonable in hindsight. This is how they will learn to categorize expenses and identify their own spending patterns.
It’s helpful if you openly address your own mistakes. Tell them about an online purchase you regretted and what you would now do differently. This way, your child will learn that mistakes are normal and that we can learn from them.
Children need to learn that although ordering online is super convenient, if something doesn’t fit, you have to take the package back to the post office. This is part of taking responsibility.
Purchasing on account requires special attention. You receive the product, but you haven’t yet paid for it. This delay makes it difficult for children to get their heads round payment obligations. In the worst case, they can get into debt because they order more and more on account, without being able to pay for it.
With purchases on account, the obligation to pay is out of sight and out of mind. This reduces the learning effect and increases the risk of getting into debt.
Explain to your child as early as possible how this principle works and that each bill comes with an obligation to pay.
It’s especially important that your child learns to pay bills on time. Otherwise, late fees will apply, which can quickly become expensive. Or there may be other consequences. For example, if they don’t pay for their phone subscription, they won’t be able to call or text.
With clear rules, helpful security features and by selecting the right payment method, you can make online shopping much safer for your children and stop them getting into debt. Explain fraud risks and data privacy and remind them to never share their passwords or PIN codes. Also talk about how to recognize fake shops and scams and how to be cautious when paying by card online. Establish clear rules: for example, a spending limit above which your child is only allowed to shop with your consent and the maximum amount they can spend per month or week. This will teach them how to plan their spending.
You can reduce spending even further by blocking in-app purchases or streaming subscriptions, for example, using parental controls. A prepaid card with a limited balance can also be a good option: no more credit, no more shopping. This protects you from any late-payment fees and helps your child manage their budget responsibly.
Note: Ask for help if you are unsure how to address the topic with your child. The parental advice provided by Pro Juventute (in German), the parental hotline or cantonal debt advisory agencies can help.
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